Dr. Gilbert Roben wrote:
“Trust children. What I mean is deal with them as if they have never made a mistake. In other words erase their past and forgive their wrong conduct. Try to assign important duties to those who do not behave well. With every new job that you give them make it appear as if they have improved their behavior, and that they have become qualified for the job you have given them.
It is possible to remove the obstacles which stand in the way of correction by good conduct and trusting the ones to be corrected. From here we can say that most of the unwanted are not but reactions to fill space in the lives of the individuals.”
Sir Yal Bint used to suggest to trust children who have a habit of stealing with some money, and give them jobs which conform to the ability of those who are lazy. Trust guarantees comfort to the person.
Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) said: “Trust is a comfort to the heart and security in faith.” 4
Trust also releases the pressure created by the miseries and misfortunes of life.
Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) stated: “Trust reduces depression.”
Dr. Mardin said: “There is not a thing that makes life more beautiful in our eyes, reduces our sufferings, and paves the way for success like optimism and trust do. Therefore, be careful of painful thoughts just as you are cautious of illnesses and their dangerous effects. Open your minds to optimistic thinking and you will see how easily you can rescue yourself from existing thoughts.” 5
It is essential for Muslims to behave with each other in such a way that does not leave room for ill expectations to penetrate their society. Imam ‘Ali (a.s.), on this subjects, used to advise the Muslims to think positively about each other and not to act in a manner that would make others mistrust them. He (a.s.) also recommended that people should avoid places of suspicion. He is quoted as saying: “He who holds hope in you has given you his trust, therefore do not disappoint him”.6
Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) made the judging point for man’s reason his thinking about others when he said:
“Man’s expectation is the scale for his reason, and his conduct is the most truthful witness to his authenticity.” 7
Because an individual whose expectations of people is negative lacks the ability to reason logically, Imam ‘Ali (a.s.) made the Muslim’s refusal of ill-thinking a sign of their spiritual power. He also said: “One who refuses ill expectations of his brother, has healthy reason and his heart is at peace.”8
Samuel Smiles said:
“It has been proven that those who have strong natures and spirits, are naturally happy and hopeful in life. They look at everyone and everything with trust and ease. Wise men see beyond every cloud a shining sun, and realize that behind every misery and infliction, exists the happiness they long for. These people find new power every time they are inflicted with a new problem; and find hope with every depression or sadness.
Such nature enjoys real happiness, and its advocates are lucky. The light of gladness shines in their eyes and they can always be seen smiling. The hearts of these individuals sparkle like stars and they see everything with an understanding eye and with the color they wish.”
Imam as-Sadiq (a.s.) considered good expectation to be one of the Muslim’s rights on each other.
“Among the rights of a believer to another believer.., is not to doubt him.” 9
Truly the element most capable of giving man optimism and trust is faith. Had all people been one nation who believed in Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Day, it would have been natural for everyone to truly trust each other. The lack of faith among people is the reason for the acute disease of mistrust in society. A believer, whose heart is comfortable with belief and trust in Allah, depends on that unlimited power whenever he is inflicted with weakness. He seeks refuge in Allah during hardships: this trains his souls and deeply affects his morals.
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Youth and morals.
Sayyed Mujtaba Musavi Lari
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